Judgments Determine Relationships

I wish I had figured this out a long time ago.  Jesus told me when I was in the ninth grade (Matthew 7:1-4). But I did not get it.  I did not realize that every time I saw or heard something from "Joe," any Joe, I would unwittingly come to some conclusions about him ... unintentionaly "rush to judgment."  But those judgments would normally be quite erronious, because only God knows everything that went into forming what I experienced Joe doing or saying, or just "being." Thus, my finite understanding of Joe led me to unconsciously but arrogantly come to erronius, normally negative, judgments about him.  Result: everytime I am with Joe, I already have a "mind-set" ...a judgment ... in place about him.  To the degree my mind-set was determined by misunderstanding (and how many times did I actually have enough raw data to actually understand Joe), I unconsciously and unintentionally communicated that "way-of-thinking and feeling" toward Joe.  Because my perception of Joe was far from Joe's self-perception,  disonnance often occured in relationships.  Further, because I often judged Joe to be imperfect and with fault, my unrealized negative attitude came through to Joe, leading to his legitimate perception of my "disfavor," my "superiority," (I was, after all, "sufficiently superior" to be his judge).  My mind-set even communicated an unintended but legitimate rejection of Joe.  Result: relationships that could and should have been supportive, helpful, and "life-giving" were strained, sometimes lost. I wonder how many times I have been at fault for strained or lost relationships?  How tragically distant from Jesus' intention for me.  How thankful I am that He is not that way toward me ... or toward Joe.  God's truth, when known and practiced, truly saves us!  How important it is that I guard my heart, for it is the wellspring of life (Proverb 4:23).  How important that I bring every thought captive into obedience to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5), and that I follow Jesus in judging only as I hear from my Father, whose judgments are just, for I am seeking not to please myself but my Father who is sending me (John 5:30, 20:21).